From College Planning to Maintaining Perspective during the College Acceptance Process
Dear Seniors and Parents,
Many of you have already been through college planning and are beginning to hear from colleges regarding your acceptances. And, while there will be a lot to celebrate in the coming months, there is also likely to be some disappointment. We know this can be an emotional and difficult time for students and their parents.
Regardless of what happens, please keep the following in mind:
#1 College rejections are not personal
It is often hard to determine exactly why a college accepts one person and not another. Furthermore, focusing on the rhetorical question of “why not me” is unproductive. Admission decisions are based on multiple factors, many of which are out of your control. Although it may seem difficult (or maybe impossible), it is important to recognize that no college decision defines you as a person.
#2 Kindness matters
Be kind to yourself and others. This is not the time to obsess over your faults. Stay focused on the positives. You have so much to offer the right school! If a friend or acquaintance gets into a “dream” school, congratulate them and wish them well. Conversely, if they receive a rejection, provide them with the encouragement and support you would like to receive if the tables were turned.
#3 Be optimistic
Even in you did not get into your top choice school, there are other options which might be better for you in the long run. Perhaps you will meet a best friend at your school who you would not have met otherwise. Or, perhaps a professor opens your eyes to a career path you never imagined. Possibilities occur if you let them.
#4 You can always make changes
When it comes to college, nothing has to be forever. So, if you start at a school and things just don’t work out, most kids have choices. You can transfer to another school or take some time off. Learning from decisions that don’t work out and building resiliency are vital life lessons.
Here is a link to one of my favorite articles that was published in the New York Times last year. It is a reminder about what’s most important: maintaining perspective and thriving in the college environment where you are.
Jen McKenzie and the Milestone Team